Why, why, why does "equality" have to equal aping the worst aspects of masculinity?

Exactly. It's so hard to see people engage in self-destructive behaviors. :( I don't embrace a lot of the superficial woman-y things (wearing makeup, loving shoes and the color pink; shopping and over-spending as a form of stress relief) but it doesn't follow that I would turn to the superficial mannish things to liberate myself. I'm just...me.