Oh, I wish I could be of more help here. I haven't had much luck finding stuff online either; it's such a mixed bag of venting bloggers and info-dumps that aren't much use for me, and I haven't done much digging to get beyond that. However, I'm going to go out on a limb here and offer myself as a one-person support group. Would you be able to tell her I'm interested in being in contact with her? If she's not interested, that's perfectly fine, but being an introvert myself, I find one-on-one support more comforting than groups. Really, my biggest support has probably been the other couple in our church whose son is also autistic. (I have yet to hear back from our local support group, and I contacted them months ago!) I hope I haven't been completely useless! I'd really like to help her in some way; the last thing you need with something like this is a feeling of being totally alone.